The decision to leave your child’s other parent can be a difficult one. Some people think they should remain a couple for the sake of the children, but this is hardly ever a good idea because the constant tension and strife can cause the child to feel stressed.
If you and your ex call it quits, you need to ensure that you have the right mindset to make the situation work as well as it can for the children. One of the most important points is that you and your ex have to transition from a romantic couple to a parenting team.
Set communication standards
You and your ex need to set standards for how you’ll communicate. For example, always talk to each other directly. Never try to relay messages through the children. Decide how conflicts will be handled. You don’t need things to drag on but it’s possible that tempers will flare. Setting up a plan for time to calm down and think about solutions is beneficial.
Always put the kids first
The kids always have to come first. You can’t let the history between you and your ex have a say in how you handle the situation. Instead, always think about how your decisions impact the children.
Taking the time to get the parenting plan in place must be a priority. This can help your children to feel more stable because everyone will know what to expect. If you and your ex can work as a team to get this done, you can probably get a solid agreement in place. Sometimes, a creative plan is necessary. Working with someone who understands how to think outside of the box might be beneficial if you don’t have a typical situation.
